After being in a relationship the mere thought of being alone can seem scary. You’ve become so accustomed to being part of a team that you have no idea what life will be like on your own. Yes, it feels great being in a relationship and having someone to add to your happiness. However, the best way to heal is to learn how to be happy being single. It’s an effective form of self-love that may seem awkward at first but can do wonders for boosting your self-esteem and improving your life.
There’s Nothing Wrong with Being Single
Being in a relationship can be wonderful, but that doesn’t mean that being single is a death sentence. When you’re on your own, you’re responsible for your own destiny and well-being. It’s a freeing experiencing that cleanses you of the baggage you have from your old relationship and prepares you for the love that will one day come your way again.
How to Date Yourself
Dating yourself sounds strange. It may even be a bit scary to think about. This is especially true if you’re not used to going places and doing things on your own. Yet, after doing this a few times, you’ll find it so liberating that you’ll wonder where YOU have been hiding your whole life.
Send Yourself Something Nice
You don’t need a guy to send you flowers or chocolates to feel special. Send some to yourself. Go online and purchase some fancy chocolates or a bouquet of flowers and have them delivered to your home or office. If possible, personalize the gift card with a special message to yourself.
Cook Yourself a Fancy Meal
Do you have skills in the kitchen? Why not make yourself a romantic candlelit dinner at home? Find a recipe to prepare a fancy meal you enjoy. Set the tone by turning on some soothing music as you cook. Prepare the table with a tablecloth, placemats, napkins, silverware, plates, and cups just as you see in the restaurants. Lastly, dim the lights and light some candles. Then, sit down and enjoy a quiet meal at home.
Go to the Movies
If you suffer from social anxiety, consider yourself to be an introvert, or feel a bit silly going out alone on a date in public, the movies is the perfect date night to try. It’s low-key and once the lights go down there’s no talking and no one is paying attention to who you’re with (or not with). Grab your favorite snacks, get a good seat, and watch a movie that makes you scared, laugh, cry, or sit on the edge of your seat.
Buy Yourself Something Nice (Just Because)
Getting from someone else is nice, but it doesn’t compare to the amazing feeling you get when you purchase something for yourself. There doesn’t need to be a special occasion to do it either. Whenever your schedule and budget allow, hit the mall, a shopping center, boutique, or wherever you’d like to purchase something from and treat yourself.
Plan a Vacation
Romantic getaways are nice, but solo trips can be all-inspiring. You get to pick the place and all the things you want to see and do while you’re there. You get away from your daily routine, meet new people, see new things, and even try things you never thought you would. It can be a true self-discovery mission that unlocks the things that interest you and make you happy.
Take Yourself on a Date
When you’ve finally mustered up the courage to take yourself out in public – plan a date! Pick a day, time, and place you’re going to take yourself. Go shopping for an outfit if you need to. Get dressed up just as you would if you were going out with someone else. Then, hit the road. Anywhere you can go with someone you can go alone and have just as much fun!
It can be tempting to want to get back to dating right after a bad breakup. However, jumping back out there too soon will taint any relationship you have going forward. There’s also the fact that you’d miss out on dating the most awesome person on earth – yourself. So, use these ideas to start making yourself feel great about being single.